Its Just Stuff!!!

The last few weeks have been very strange! there have been lots of deaths in my circle of friends, Mums, Dads, Aunties, Brother in laws, it makes you think a lot about your mortality and Stuff!

I was helping an old friend this week, his auntie died on Monday, he arrived too late to see her on Tuesday from France where he now lives, due to time constraints her house needs to be sorted and he needed to get started whilst over here, as we went through her house, finding all sorts of out of date food items and pairs and pairs of shoes and slippers, how many pairs of slippers does one lady need?? she had about 20/30 pairs! lots different and lots the same, hundreds of jumpers, books in pristine condition, never read, just it seemed books to fill shelves, we talked of stuff.

We spend our lives filling our spaces with stuff, for some we spend out lives decorating and re decorating, making our space beautiful, now to me that's lovely but who are they doing it for? I would far rather have a home like mine where people felt they could come in, kick off their shoes and kick back a bit than feel like they must sit on the edge of the chairs and not muss the cushions!

But in the end, all that is left when we are gone is stuff! you cant take it with you! you cant really dictate what happens to your stuff, it will be sifted and sorted and what was precious to you will be junk to someone else, it really makes you see how unimportant it all really is!

And then there's the 'secret' stuff, the things that you really don't want anyone to see! the things that you don't want to share with your kids! for me its my diarys and writings from over the years, along with a few other bits that are for me and me alone, for these things I am going to buy a box, a box with a key so I can lock them all away, with specific instructions for my best friend to remove and dispose when I go! and I have the same instructions from her! as for the other stuff, do what you will with it!!

All I really want is to be well remembered, with love and laughter, and have spent my days doing happy things, and not wasted a minute of it doing things that are really not that important.